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Friday, April 23rd, 2010 | Author: Terri Fornear

In His Grip is a weekly e-mail intended to provide inspiration and hope to those fighting cancer.
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*If you’re fighting cancer, please write and let us know how we can pray and support you.
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A while back I was working with one of my students, and in the middle of the lesson he said to me, “Ms. Terri, did you know that we are made of more nothing than something?” He proceeded to tell me how science has proven that cells have more empty space, than filled space. More nothing than something. At first I laughed at him, and then I got excited because in Colossians 1:17 it says, “In Him all things hold together.” And in Ephesians 1:23 it says Jesus, “Fills all and is in all.” Made me think maybe there is more of Him in me than me, which opens up all kinds of possibilities.

The invisible is becoming more real; especially since what I see is often overwhelming and out of my control. Talking to an invisible God, Who holds everything together, is a faith walk into the invisible. So, reading Psalm 32:7, I say His words out loud to Him, “You are my hiding place; you preserve me from trouble, and surround me with shouts of deliverance.”

I want to hear His “shouts of deliverance.”
How do I do that?
I have to quiet my heart to hear.

He says they are “shouts.” Listen to these shouts.
*Nails pounded into His hands and feet (delivering me from punishment for my sin).
*Thorns placed
on His head (a reminder that He bears the thorns we deal with everyday).
*The vinegar He drank (drinking the comfort He gives in the middle of letting go of all my dreams).
*His tears
of blood (bearing the anxieties, worries and fears of future trials). 
*Dragging His own cross
(so that we could benefit from His Resurrection Life today).
*Then finally His last shout, “IT IS FINISHED.”

That invisible Resurrected Life keeps shouting to me to “see” His deliverance in the midst of the visible.
“You are complete in me” (Colossians 2:10).
“I will never leave you” (John 14:18).
“You are righteous in Me” (Romans 4:8).
“You are completely forgiven” (1 John 2:9).
“Enter My rest” (Hebrews 4:3).
“There is no condemnation for those who are In Me” (Romans 8:1).
“Take My Peace, it’s not like the world’s peace” (John 14:19).
“Abide in My unconditional Love” (1 John 2:28).
“Cast your cares on me, for I care for you” (1 Peter 5:7).
“I will help you overcome the evil one” (1 John 2:13).
“Greater is He that is in you than he who is in the world” (1 John 4:4).
Thursday, April 01st, 2010 | Author: Joe Fornear

In His Grip is a weekly e-mail intended to provide inspiration and hope to those fighting cancer.
A ministry of Stronghold Ministry.    Subscribe here.
*If you’re fighting cancer, please write and let us know how we can pray and support you.
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When I was battling cancer, there was a topic that frequently crossed my mind, but I did not want to discuss it. Frankly, I did not appreciate it when others raised the issue with my wife, Terri, or I. We were so deep into survival mode, the last thing I wanted to talk about was the d-word – death. You see I was swimming for my life. Pausing to consider that I might not make it to shore seemed so counter productive. “I need to keep on swimming as fast as I can. Faster now. Faster.”

Yet Solomon, the wisest man who ever lived, taught us a contrary approach to our own deaths. “It is better to go to a house of mourning than a house of feasting, for that is the end of all men; and the living will lay it to his heart” (Ecclesiastes 7:2). Death doesn’t go away because we refuse to think about it. Solomon is suggesting that whether we live seventy more years, or seventy more hours, we should be preparing for the next life, and living each day as though it was our last.

Jesus often attempted to prepare His followers for His death. He told them He would be beaten and crucified. Yet, He also taught them that He would rise; that ultimately death would not have the last word. Later, Paul extended Christ’s victory to us! “Christ is the first fruits, after that, at His Second coming, those who are Christ’s will also rise” (1 Corinthians 15:23). So Jesus’ resurrection is actually a foretaste of our own resurrection from the dead, that is, if we truly belong to Christ*.
Now I am definitely not suggesting anyone give up on their fight. No way. But I am saying that Easter helps us lose our fear of the ultimate unpleasantry, so that we can face it square in the eye, and proclaim with Paul, “Oh death, where is your victory? Oh death, where is your sting” (1 Corinthians 15:55). Thank you, Lord, for Christ’s rising, as it means that we too can rise!

*For more on how to know if you belong to Christ – click here.

Monday, November 02nd, 2009 | Author: Joe Fornear

This may be surprising, but it is common for cancer survivors to struggle with depression after being declared cancer free. Now you might wonder, “They had their prayers answered, so what could possibly be the problem?” Many people expect survivors to be all chirpy. In the last three decades, the number of cancer survivors in the United States has tripled and is growing by 2% each year. In 2004, there were an estimated 10.7 million cancer survivors, representing 3.5% of the United States population. But oncologists and psychologists are only now becoming aware that mild to moderate depression in survivors is common.

Drawing from my own experience and also other warriors we’ve encountered, I’d like to offer reasons happiness can elude the survivor. Then I’d like to suggest some biblical pointers on how to handle these post-war blues.

1) Fear. Immediately after being declared cancer free, the thought that the cancer could recur is never far from consciousness. Fear lies in wait and rears up at the first sign of a new or old pain.

2) Adrenaline letdown. For many, there is a sort of post-traumatic stress syndrome after their cancer battle. Returning to “civilian life” is not as easy as one might think.  Many patients literally fought for their life. They were all jacked up and on guard constantly. After the battle, it is truly difficult to relax, and recovery takes time.

3) Literal battle scars. Surgeries, chemo and radiation all take their toll and leave a mark. The potential list of scars is lengthy: neuropathy from chemo (painful tingling of nerves in fingers and toes and feet), burns from radiation, loss of limb function, weight gain and lasting medication side effects. Withdrawal from mood altering pain management drugs can be another factor in being down. For privacy reasons, some scars may never be shared by survivors, such as issues pertaining to sexual matters.

4) Figurative battle scars. Battle fatigue is often rampant for survivors. Chemo and other soldier's depression - survivordrugs depress the immune and nervous systems, it is no wonder they also depress the emotions. The grieving of lost time and opportunities with loved ones is very common. Pain-filled flashback memories can haunt the survivor at first. Often sadness due to continued or new tensions in relationships impacts the survivor as well. Normalizing relationships is never easy.

5) Purposelessness. The survivor often is paralyzed by big picture questions, “What does this all mean? How should I live now?” Life after cancer can prove so mundane, empty, boring and vacant. Priorities now must be realigned back to normal, and the survivor is often uncertain as to how to define “the new normal.”

6) Support system changes. Often supporters move on, leaving the survivor to process the aftermath of cancer  on their own. I really needed to talk, but I soon realized that not everyone wanted to listen. Expectations from work, spouse and life often return like a flood, making it clear to the survivor that the kid gloves are off. He or she must pull it together and look to contribute fully again.

So what advice does the Bible give?

1) Pray and Trust. The Bible says to cast our anxiety on the Lord (1 Peter 5:17). Jesus said we can’t add even one day to our lives, so we should trust Him completely with our longevity.

2) Number your days. Moses said, “Teach us to number our days, that we may present to You a heart of wisdom” (Psalm 90:12). Moses suggests we make each day count for God. Following the Lord on a daily, even a moment by moment basis, is wise living advice for all. The martyred missionary, Jim Elliot, once said, “He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep, to gain what he can never lose.”

3) Talk or write it out. Find a support group or some other survivors and talk it over. One of the most healing steps for me was to write a book. Many people journal and write prayers to the Lord. These activities can help to make sense of the entire experience. Reading other’s stories still helps me today. If you are a survivor, write us and I will send you my book – My Stronghold, maybe it will help you.

4) Practice the Presence of God. There is no one who can heal our hurts and memories like the Lord. He can “restore the years the locusts have eaten” (Joel 2:25). In other words, He can make up for our losses and lost time. I think the best way He does this is by making each moment special with Him and others. So the Lord, who was our Stronghold in the midst of the storm, can continually hold us up and heal us as we live out full lives for Him.

The “new normal” for the survivor and all of us should be living moment by moment in dependence and closeness to the Lord. Every moment is sacred, whether we are doing some good deed or raking leaves. That is the sheer excitement of walking with Christ. We get to live each day with Him and through Him!

sacred and eternal work. You will bounce back. It takes a little time. Just saying, this is all very, very normal. I think the big takeaway lesson is that the “new normal” should be living moment by moment in dependence and closeness to the Lord. That is really the excitement of the Christian walk. We get to live each day with Christ.